Monthly Archives: January 2014

Sleep Really Does Matter

While I am usually early to bed and early to rise with good sleep and plenty of energy throughout the day, my sleep has been disturbed the last 14 months because of a shoulder injury.  The forced change in sleep positions has led to sleep frustrations.  As have middle-of-the-night noises in our home.

Our 18 year old’s evening seems to begin about the time I head to bed.  Bailey is often taking his shower (dropping the shampoo bottle) and looking through his bathroom cabinets and drawers (like a bull in a China shop) about the time I stumble to my bathroom for my middle of the night “health break”.

This past Sunday morning, as I was poking Bailey to rouse him during our pastor’s sermon, I mentally wrestled with our family’s need for sleep because sleep Really Does Matter.

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There truly is an app for everything.  Recently, my husband downloaded a sleep analysis app.  While he sleeps, his phone monitors his movement and charts his sleep cycles and quality.  This morning he announced, “Last night I was down to 67% sleep quality from 98% two nights ago.”  Statistically, he’s in for a long day and if he goes several nights without good rest, he’ll suffer even more significantly.

In 2006, the Harvard Health Publication reported that 75% of American adults have some difficulty sleeping at least 2 nights in any given week and 25% report chronic sleep difficulties.   Those men and women may well suffer from the following problems, all of which have been linked to sleep deprivation:

Mental Alertness:  poor attention, poor decision making and problem solving ability and speed, reduced creativity, poor memory consolidation, and decreased productivity

Emotional Well Being:  increased anger, impulsivity, depression, apathy, and mood swings

Physical Health:  hormone imbalance  (hungrier, sluggish, higher blood sugar, abnormal growth, poor muscle mass), compromised immunity, limited healing and repair of the body’s daily wear and tear, and because of less time to naturally heal itself, heart disease, high blood pressure, and chronic inflammation

The “microsleep” Bailey experienced Sunday during church (5-10 seconds of nodding off) was his body’s way of communicating that it did not sleep well the night before.

Microsleep is responsible for lack of attention during school and poor productivity in the workplace.  American Psychology Today states that 60% of grade school and high school children report being tired in school and 15% admit to falling asleep in class.

Microsleep is also responsible for the less easily overlooked errors made by sleep deprived physicians and 100,000+ drivers who fall asleep at the wheel annually.  The National Highway Safety Administration and the Department of Transportation report an estimated $15.9 million in direct costs, 100,000+ accidents, 71,000 injuries, and 1,550 deaths annually due to sleep related accidents.

Do the adults in your home get their recommended 6-8 hours of sleep every night?  Do your children get their recommended 8-10 hours?  If not, you’re in good company :).  How can we better manage our down time to assure our families’ get their much needed sleep?  Join the conversation and reply using the button above this post.

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Time Really Does Matter

A couple of years ago, my principal challenged parents to make the most of every day using a roll of 10 key calculator paper.  I’m modifying the activity for you.  Give yourself a gold star for participating :).

On a piece of paper, draw a line that is approximately 8 inches long.  Try to divide that line into eight sections of equal length.

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Draw hash marks at both ends of the line, and label the front “birth” and the end “death”.  You now have a visual representation of the lifespan of your child, should your child live 80 years.  Label the remaining hash marks (that separate your line into 8 sections) 10, 20, 30 … 70.

Now, cross out the last 3 sections and label them, “I’m being cared for or I’m gone”.  Hard to think about, yes, but when your child is 50 you will likely be 75+ and will probably not be the voice of reason for your children any longer.   Circle the 3 sections from the hash marks “20” to “50”.  Label those sections “I might be trusted as a mentor… but I might not.”  You should be left with 2 sections on your line.

Now, depending on how old your child is, cross out the years that have already passed.  I’ve lost most of the 1st section for my 8 year old, a little more than the first with my 12 year old, and all of the first and all but a smidge of the second with my 18 year old.

How much time do you have left as a significant voice in the life of your child?  My friends, Time Really Does Matter.

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In Matthew 6:21 and Luke 12:34 we’re told, “Where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”  My husband and I often think of this verse when we’re budgeting.  Regardless of how you view the Bible, this idea can also apply to time.  What if the verse read, “Where you spend your time, there your heart will be also.”, or alternately “Where your treasure is, there your time will be also.”

While I continue to struggle with time in my own life, I have learned a thing or two in my 18 years as a mom, wife, and educator.  I had my oldest and youngest 10 years apart.  I was a different kind of a mom with Bailey than I’ve been with Caden.  I realize more fully how precious and important each day is.

Where do you spend your time?

  • In front of the television or computer?
  • Working (at the office or at home)?
  • Commuting?
  • Watching from a sideline?
  • Playing with your children?
  • Talking with your children, helping them learn and grow and develop character?

I truly believed I could do it all.  I knew that my kids were good kids.  They weren’t getting into “trouble” while I worked 50 hours outside of the home every week.  But I could see, on that piece of calculator paper, that time was both limited and fleeting. I felt called to revisit the time I was investing in my children’s lives.

When you’re not with your children, they’re filling their time with something.  It might not be a bad thing, but is it the best thing?  Is it rich, language-filled thinking and exploring, or is it passive activity?  Are they engaged and growing with you as their primary mentor and educator or are they biding time?

Join the conversation by replying using the button at the top of this post.  How do you show your children that they are your priority?  How do you invest time in their lives?

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